This is the Peter Pan story. Peter Pan is this magical boy, Pan is the God of everything
Roughly speaking. It’s not an accident that he has the name Pan, and he’s the boy that
Won’t grow up and he’s magical. Well that’s because children are magical, they can be
Anything; they’re nothing but potential. Peter Pan doesn’t want to give that up, why?
Well he’s got some adults around him but the main adult is Captain Hook, who the hell
Wants to grow up to be Captain Hook? First of all you’ve got a hook, second you’re a
Tyrant and third you’re chased by the dragon of chaos with a clock in it’s stomach, the
Crocodile, it’s already got a piece of you. Well that’s what happens when you get older
Roughly speaking. It’s not an accident that he has the name Pan, and he’s the boy that
Won’t grow up and he’s magical. Well that’s because children are magical, they can be
Anything; they’re nothing but potential. Peter Pan doesn’t want to give that up, why?
Well he’s got some adults around him but the main adult is Captain Hook, who the hell
Wants to grow up to be Captain Hook? First of all you’ve got a hook, second you’re a
Tyrant and third you’re chased by the dragon of chaos with a clock in it’s stomach, the
Crocodile, it’s already got a piece of you. Well that’s what happens when you get older
Ok well
Someone
This is very serious
And I don’t know if I should address it
Because I’m somewhat tired
But I’ll give it a shot
Because it’s important
And it’s very serious and a troublesome question
“I plan on taking my own life very soon. Why shouldn’t I?”
Well I’m going to assume this isn’t a casual question
You know
That’s been put out for the purposes of display
Well the first thing I would say is you have to think very carefully through the consequences of that for other people
So I’ve had clients in my clinical practice who never recovered from the suicide of a family member
Decades later they’re still torturing themselves about it
Someone
This is very serious
And I don’t know if I should address it
Because I’m somewhat tired
But I’ll give it a shot
Because it’s important
And it’s very serious and a troublesome question
“I plan on taking my own life very soon. Why shouldn’t I?”
Well I’m going to assume this isn’t a casual question
You know
That’s been put out for the purposes of display
Well the first thing I would say is you have to think very carefully through the consequences of that for other people
So I’ve had clients in my clinical practice who never recovered from the suicide of a family member
Decades later they’re still torturing themselves about it
“You talk sometimes about weak men - ah why are weak men such a problem?”
Well weak people are a problem in general
And I don’t mean physically weak, I mean cowardly and deceitful
I’m thinking more in terms of moral weakness
There’s a variety of reasons, first of all if you can’t support your own weight, let’s say, then someone else has to do it and that’s not good
If you don’t pick a forthright and useful and noble pathway through life then you’ll become bitter and too hurt by the tragedy of existence and then you tend to seek your revenge wherever you can get it and that’s not good
So, it’s a mistake on all fronts, it’s not good for you, it’s not good for your family, it’s not good for the community, it’s certainly not a good medium to long term strategy because life is very very difficult and you have to be prepared for that
Well weak people are a problem in general
And I don’t mean physically weak, I mean cowardly and deceitful
I’m thinking more in terms of moral weakness
There’s a variety of reasons, first of all if you can’t support your own weight, let’s say, then someone else has to do it and that’s not good
If you don’t pick a forthright and useful and noble pathway through life then you’ll become bitter and too hurt by the tragedy of existence and then you tend to seek your revenge wherever you can get it and that’s not good
So, it’s a mistake on all fronts, it’s not good for you, it’s not good for your family, it’s not good for the community, it’s certainly not a good medium to long term strategy because life is very very difficult and you have to be prepared for that
Tell the truth, or at least don’t lie
Do not do things that you hate
Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act
Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient
If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things
Pay attention
Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you
Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships
Do not do things that you hate
Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act
Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient
If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things
Pay attention
Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you
Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships
Men don’t struggle for power
That isn’t what men do, not if they’re civilised
They size each other up and elect the competent to lead them
And they do that at every level of society
I worked in a rail crew in Southern Saskatchewan
They’re rough guys, like a lot of them had been in prison, you know
And when you first came onto the rail crew you got a stupid nickname and people teased you
And I remember this one kid called Lunchbucket, that was his nickname ‘cos he came to the rail crew with a lunch bucket that looked like his Mum had packed it
That was a bad idea
That isn’t what men do, not if they’re civilised
They size each other up and elect the competent to lead them
And they do that at every level of society
I worked in a rail crew in Southern Saskatchewan
They’re rough guys, like a lot of them had been in prison, you know
And when you first came onto the rail crew you got a stupid nickname and people teased you
And I remember this one kid called Lunchbucket, that was his nickname ‘cos he came to the rail crew with a lunch bucket that looked like his Mum had packed it
That was a bad idea