My daughter was very ill She had juvenile rheumatoid arthritis And when she was between the ages of 14 and 16 It first destroyed her hip which had to be replaced And then it destroyed the ankle on her other leg which had to be replaced She walked around two years on broken legs And she was taking massive doses of opiates She could hardly stay awake And she had this advanced autoimmune disease Which produced all sorts of other symptoms that were just as bad as the joint degeneration But which are harder to describe And so, it's just bloody brutal You know it is a test of your faith
One of the things that's happened in our society Is that we seem to have concluded that strong men are dangerous And that's partly because we think Western culture is a tyrannical patriarchy And the only reason you get to the talk is because you've misused power So, all the men who are at the top of the heart are all misusing their power and they're all tyrannical And all the guys who have the aim and ambition to achieve that are just tyrants in training That's sort of basic attitude that we have towards our own culture and towards young men now Everything about that is pathological and inexcusable and shameful
So, in Genesis one of the things God has Adam do first So, God makes the world by speaking Okay so that's the first thing to think about You're supposed to think in a sophisticated way about this The ideas that some integral relationship between communication and the structure of theater It's part of the role that consciousness plays in the world whatever that role is Language takes the chaos it makes it into things And so, God has Adam name all the animals They're not even really real until they have names Let's say that you're having a rough patch in your relationship And you don't know why it's unnamable Is it real?
What you want to do is want to enter into a conversation So that you come out wiser than you went in The best example of this is when you're having an argument with your intimate partner let's say You’re gonna want to win You think okay well wait a second we better sort out what winning means here So, let's say that you're more verbally fluent than your partner and more treacherous So, you can win That doesn’t mean you’re right first of all Winning when you're wrong is a really bad idea Because then you think you’re right and you’re not And then maybe the person can see things you can't but can't verbalize them quite as well
One way of conceptualizing yourself is that you're one speck of dust among seven billion And when you conceptualize yourself that way you might think Well what difference does it make what I say or do And that's actually quite convenient for you Because if it doesn't matter what you say her do then you don't have any responsibility And you can do whatever you want The price you pay for that is a bit of nihilism But if you don't have to shoulder any responsibility that's a small price to pay The other way of looking at it then this is actually the accurate way of looking at it Is that you’re in a network You're a node in the network
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